Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life
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- Author：Henry Cloud
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Summary
This New York Times bestselling and award-winning book helps readers set healthy boundaries in order to be the loving people God created， and now offers a whole new chapter。
Are you in control of your life？
Christians often focus so much on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits and limitations。 Have you ever found yourself wondering: Can I set limits and still be a loving person？ How do I answer someone who wants my time， love， energy， or money？ Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries？
In this Gold Medallion Award-winning book and New York Times bestseller， Drs。 Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions， and show you how to set healthy boundaries with your parents， spouses， children， friends， coworkers， and even with yourself。 This updated and expanded edition specifically addresses boundaries in the digital age， online dating， single parenting， and the workplace。
Boundaries are personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not， and influence all areas of your life – physically， mentally， emotionally， spiritually。
Unpacking ten laws of boundaries， Drs。 Cloud and Townsend show you how to bring new health to your relationships。 You’ll discover firsthand how sound boundaries give you the freedom to walk as the loving， giving， fulfilled individual God created you to be。
Are you in control of your life？
Christians often focus so much on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits and limitations。 Have you ever found yourself wondering: Can I set limits and still be a loving person？ How do I answer someone who wants my time， love， energy， or money？ Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries？
In this Gold Medallion Award-winning book and New York Times bestseller， Drs。 Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions， and show you how to set healthy boundaries with your parents， spouses， children， friends， coworkers， and even with yourself。 This updated and expanded edition specifically addresses boundaries in the digital age， online dating， single parenting， and the workplace。
Boundaries are personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not， and influence all areas of your life – physically， mentally， emotionally， spiritually。
Unpacking ten laws of boundaries， Drs。 Cloud and Townsend show you how to bring new health to your relationships。 You’ll discover firsthand how sound boundaries give you the freedom to walk as the loving， giving， fulfilled individual God created you to be。
Reviews
Vividelpaso
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Se me hizo muy repetitivo y mete mucho la Biblia， esperaba algo más
Melvyn Foo
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I appreciate the psycho spiritual approach the book takes。 But at times Scripture verses seem to be cherry picked to support arguments， rather than using a more holistically theologically grounded approach。 That said， I bought and read this book at a time in my life that I needed to learn to set boundaries in a better way， and the practical examples helped illustrate what that would look like。
Eric
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Interesting discussion of soft skills and relationships in life。 While a lot of the detrimental examples weren’t much help， several of the example dialogues show some useful ways to interact with others。
Mohsin Tariq
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The only book to read to get your life in order！This books is the best when its about instilling boundaries。 It helped me understand my childhood and will help me raise my daughter and eventually become generational principles within my family。 Btw this is coming from a Muslim who read a book based on biblical principles and found it extremely helpful。 Def will explore more！
Darren Mann
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Great book， highly recommended！Great book。 I highly recommend it。 It takes you through the steps of establishing boundaries in all areas of your life。 It's not easy sometimes， but it'll change your life if you apply what's in it。 Great book， highly recommended！Great book。 I highly recommend it。 It takes you through the steps of establishing boundaries in all areas of your life。 It's not easy sometimes， but it'll change your life if you apply what's in it。 。。。more
Sam
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I have found this immensely insightful and helpful。 The only drawback is that I wish they had included more citations/sources but that didn't detract from the information being presented。 I know I've benefited and will be referencing their book in the future。 I have found this immensely insightful and helpful。 The only drawback is that I wish they had included more citations/sources but that didn't detract from the information being presented。 I know I've benefited and will be referencing their book in the future。 。。。more
Abigailė
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An eye opening and life changing book， not even exaggerating。 After going to counselling I realised that I had some sort of boundary issues。 This book really helped identify where it came from and gave me practical steps of how to deal with it。 It addresses boundary issues in a workplace， in friendships， relationships， in families and even in church。 I loved that all boundary principles were based on Bible verses and presented as a Godly concept， when so many churches struggle with boundaries。
Elena
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dnf at 15%it's too christian for me， and that's coming from someone who's a stalwart christian and has been her whole life。 i might try it again one day but i don't see that day being any time soon。 this might be for you。 i really liked the message but i don't do will with bible verses every other word and i didn't like the writing style。 dnf at 15%it's too christian for me， and that's coming from someone who's a stalwart christian and has been her whole life。 i might try it again one day but i don't see that day being any time soon。 this might be for you。 i really liked the message but i don't do will with bible verses every other word and i didn't like the writing style。 。。。more
Gabrielle Foster
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Great book with great biblical and practical steps about boundaries。 Really learned a lot from it。
Janni "Gulde"
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I saw an article with the 10 principles from the 2。 chapter， and that was quite useful。 Besides that， there was some other useful buts， but they were quite buried in bible quotes and other religions rambling I wasn't quite expecting。 If you are ether religious or good at filtering out， this book might still have use。 Otherwise， I wouldn't recommend it。 I must admit I mostly finished it out of stubbornness， and question my decision。 It was quite hard to continue on at times。 And I wonder if I did I saw an article with the 10 principles from the 2。 chapter， and that was quite useful。 Besides that， there was some other useful buts， but they were quite buried in bible quotes and other religions rambling I wasn't quite expecting。 If you are ether religious or good at filtering out， this book might still have use。 Otherwise， I wouldn't recommend it。 I must admit I mostly finished it out of stubbornness， and question my decision。 It was quite hard to continue on at times。 And I wonder if I did get that much use besides that chapter that was better summarized in the article anyway。 I was hoping to find more useful points， but there weren't much compared to other materials already red。It was also a little weird to hear about these concepts of boundaries for maturing out of a boundaries lacking child like relationship to other people when they were ultimately just moving you into an equally childlike relationship to a god。 It all depends on the viewing lense I suppose。 。。。more
Robert
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What a life changing book！I cannot wait to read the others in the series。
Emmy Schuurmans
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The first half of the book felt surface level and seemed to simplify complex issues。 But the second half had some really powerful points on how to be mature about difficult relationships。
Ashley Clark
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The authors and I definitely have differing viewpoints on some things， but overall I thought the information was good。 I gained some valuable insight into myself and my relationships。
Youdong Zhang
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I feel like I’ve heard the word boundary thrown around a lot but I never really understood it until this book。 I’ve never seen myself as someone who had trouble saying no， but now I see I am in some areas。 I definitely feel better prepared to handle the situations in my life and can see the events in the past that I could’ve handled more effectively。
Molly Mitchell
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Slow paced and repetitive at times， but overall an amazing book I would recommend to anyone。 Very insightful and full of good advice。
S Reeb
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3。5 stars。 Really strong points， but got a little boring and hard to read at certain areas。
Kellie Martin
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Thankful for Christian counselors like Henry Cloud who provide practical and helpful resources。 Wish I read this book in my early 20s。 Definitely recommend reading this one if you haven’t already！
Elena Fryer
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I'm not particularly religious （although I am spiritual）。 I was still able to apply a lot of this book to my own lives and beliefs。 I'm not particularly religious （although I am spiritual）。 I was still able to apply a lot of this book to my own lives and beliefs。 。。。more
Iris Rojas
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Highly recommended， with many easy to understand examples。 But I don't understand， as authors with that facility for writing and with such interesting things to teach: why don't they write for a wider audience？ the book is practically aimed at a Christian audience， and that really makes it a bit tedious。 If it wasn't for that， I'd give it 5 stars。 Highly recommended， with many easy to understand examples。 But I don't understand， as authors with that facility for writing and with such interesting things to teach: why don't they write for a wider audience？ the book is practically aimed at a Christian audience， and that really makes it a bit tedious。 If it wasn't for that， I'd give it 5 stars。 。。。more
Mahesh Sharma
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It’s a very practical advice the book leaves you with- make the boundaries in life and learn to say no。
Benjamin
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Odd book in many respects， but the framework is very useful， despite its oversimplifications。
Jennifer Wisdom
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I listened to this as an AudioBook。 Very good， but definitely something I'd like to read the physical copy of as well so I can stop at points and think about them before continuing on。 I listened to this as an AudioBook。 Very good， but definitely something I'd like to read the physical copy of as well so I can stop at points and think about them before continuing on。 。。。more
Alison Schwartz
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Truthfully would not have picked this book out myself， however my counselor gave it to me to read lol。 I really liked this book！ Reads more like a text-book which I enjoyed， and is very practical。 Even if you don’t think you have trouble drawing boundaries in your life， you probably do。
Nikki
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This book would not stop stepping on my toes。 It changed the way I think about myself and the way I see life。
Mellissa
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If you are a person who considers the Bible a holy text， and have confusion about boundaries in just about any way- this is the book for you。 This book takes Biblical text and reframes it to focus on the encouragement of boundaries。 Service？ Yes。 Devotion？ Yes。 Boundaries- YES。 This also has chapters regarding marriage and children， and really just helps create a new paradigm in a world where Biblical readers， especially Christians， may often feel like they are not enough: not giving enough， not If you are a person who considers the Bible a holy text， and have confusion about boundaries in just about any way- this is the book for you。 This book takes Biblical text and reframes it to focus on the encouragement of boundaries。 Service？ Yes。 Devotion？ Yes。 Boundaries- YES。 This also has chapters regarding marriage and children， and really just helps create a new paradigm in a world where Biblical readers， especially Christians， may often feel like they are not enough: not giving enough， not doing enough， not being enough。 This book solves that with the Bible！ It was a really helpful read for me， and I recommend it to anyone feeling any sort of burnout， but again， because of the repeated use of Christianity and Bible references， I would give this a pass if those aren’t considered your personal beliefs， value systems， or sacred text。 Hope this was helpful！ 。。。more
Natalie Allen
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Life changing。
TobyLauren Burgess
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I didn’t agree with everything in this book， but it also opened my eyes to a number of perspectives that I had never considered。 Absolutely worth a read， whether or not you think you have issues with boundaries。 I knew that I did， and this book not only gave me the tools to make better choices for myself， it let me know the ways that I am unconsciously forming the boundary levels of others， particularly my children。
Melanna
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4。5 rounded up to 5。 This is written from a Christian worldview。 And there a couple of things that show it’s age （1993！） that should be updated （mostly around disciplining children）。 So I’m taking off a half start for that。 But overall， everyone needs this book。 It’s frustrating to work and live with people who have a lack of boundaries。 It’s funny because most people I know with boundary problems are people pleasers。 But did you know that your people pleasing ways and lack of boundaries is more 4。5 rounded up to 5。 This is written from a Christian worldview。 And there a couple of things that show it’s age （1993！） that should be updated （mostly around disciplining children）。 So I’m taking off a half start for that。 But overall， everyone needs this book。 It’s frustrating to work and live with people who have a lack of boundaries。 It’s funny because most people I know with boundary problems are people pleasers。 But did you know that your people pleasing ways and lack of boundaries is more displeasing than your constant yes？ It means you’re constantly apologizing， dropping balls， forgetting important things。 I learned some new approaches and wording that I will be using in my own boundary setting。 And will be making sure I’m teaching this to my kids。 。。。more
Hillary
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I didn't realize this was a Christian book when I picked it up。 I only made it through Chapter 1， but my oversimplified synopsis is: "Two men explain how patriarchal Christian theology negatively effects women by blaming the women for having poor boundaries。" I didn't realize this was a Christian book when I picked it up。 I only made it through Chapter 1， but my oversimplified synopsis is: "Two men explain how patriarchal Christian theology negatively effects women by blaming the women for having poor boundaries。" 。。。more
Becky
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